I treated myself a few weeks ago to a potters wheel, and it has become my de-stressing tool of choice. If you”throw” a pot and try to push it, chances are good it will implode and it’s all over. Today was a good day – I ended up with three items that almost look like something. Usually you sign your pieces to make them yours, and I decided that this was the year I wasn’t going to be as embarrassed and came up with a way to make them uniquely mine. Z has always been my signature – if you are looking for an alphabet item chances are good z will be the hardest to find. Instead of signing my pieces underneath, I’ve chosen to stamp the inside of each item with a z. So now, if you see a slightly uneven bowl with a z in the bottom, you’ll know who made it.Choosing what your Signature Style is should be about letting people know what you are about, and what your lifestyle is. It doesn’t have to be complicated – it should just be about you.
This has been an interesting week – lots of battles being fought and on the good side reconnecting with great role models.
After getting an SOS from my sister that’s building a stunning home in Oklahoma I headed up 35 to see how I could help. From the beginning it’s been obvious that we are sisters – she and her husband didn’t want a home that was like every one on the block. They wanted one that embraced old and new, had character just like their family definitely does, and was full of the love and craftsmanship our parents brought us up in. This wasn’t a project they took on as a whim – finding the right lot and the right components has been a decade long search. They were also looking for partners in the process that could share their passion and to be honest they had no issues with compensating people for their time and involvement. As a person and as a professional there isn’t one thing that I would have done any differently than they did.
When interviewing builders they spent over a year talking to other consumers that had built in the area, visiting homes built by various builders and almost gave up on being able to find the right partner. Finally they found one that said the right things and was as anxious to get started as they were.
Fast forward almost two years, and my sister is still waiting for the home to be completed. It’s become the nightmare that we all hear about – the builder is never around and with subcontractors that have no supervision or guidance my sister is having to take on pretty much the builders role to move the house forward.
So much comes down to attitude – her family is very sensitive to smoke and they discovered one day that the trim carpenters had been smoking in the house… a lot. They asked then not to smoke in the house because of the health issues and yet the contractors continued to – never even stepped outside to indulge in something that has been proven to be a health hazzard to them as well as everyone around them. Plus the fact that the painters were working in the house with very flammable stains and lacquers. If the builder had been around to see this it should have been his responsibility to handle this with HIS subs and to be sure that the work was being done on time and with the craftmanship that was promised.
As someone who makes their living in the home building industry, I’m embarrassed to have people like this call themselves professionals, and it’s people like this who hurt all of us. My sister and her family are ending up paying a very heavy price – instead of getting to spend as much time as she would like to with her family and her husband’s business she is having to manage subs and do the work that they have paid others to do. Sadly, I think if they knew how much building a home was going to affect their quality of life for this many years they might not have ventured down that road.
Fortunately there have been bright spots. It’s a family trait / curse that we don’t ask people to do anything that we wouldn’t do ourselves and many times we work right along side the people we’ve hired and frienships evolve. One of those is a soul that there aren’t even words to describe -someone who has given his time, his sources, and his treasures to make my sisters home as special as they had hoped. He has understood their vision (unlike their builder) and has discovered architectural components that have been around for hundreds of years and will continue to have a place of honor in their home. Their stone work is a masterpiece and you can tell it is a labor of love as is the pool complete with it’s own grotto.
I’m sure I’ll be adding to this subject in the future. What this has taught me is that it doesn’t matter if your new home costs $20,000 or $2,000,000 – every family and every home deserves to be treated with respect and with the quality we would expect if we were building it for ourselves.
This month I’ve been very busy doing model homes across the country for Patriot, and also working on my new Lifestylist Design products that will be launching in January. It’s been really exciting to see the Lifestylist program come full circle, and to see how people have embraced the concept and made it their own.My sister is the perfect example of what Lifestylist Design is all about. It should be about you – your life, your loves, your discoveries, not some designer or other persons interpretation of how they think you should live. I was finally able to get up here to see the new home that she and her family have been working on, and it’s spectacular! And the best thing about it is that when I walk in the home, or even when I drive up to the home there is no question that this is an active outgoing family who loves life and are individuals. From the start my sister refused to get “typecast” into a specific style or theme. Instead she incorporated things that they saw on various trips, items that were gifts on very special occasions, and was wise enough to encourage her subcontractors to be partners with her on this journey. The result is a marriage of craftsmanship and character that will never be replicated the same way again, just as my sister is a one of a kind.”Rules” are meant to be broken, especially in the design world. The next time someone tells you what you can or can’t do with your home tell them that you practice the Lifestylist Design philosophy where what you love is never put in question.